Who Do You Know?

A Friend in Pain

As I looked around the table at my physician colleagues and friends, I didn’t recognize her. We started our meeting with introductions, and when she stated her name, I looked up, startled.  The person who was speaking was unfamiliar to me. The enthusiasm and joy that she radiated so clearly a few years before had disappeared. The individual before me was distant and cautious, and in some way that I didn’t understand, traumatized. Even her voice seemed different. I looked into her eyes, but I could not find her.

What had happened? I took a chance and invited her to join me for a cup of tea. We met the next week, and remarkably, even though we did not know each other well, the conversation was easy and relaxed. We quickly omitted small talk and moved to a more pressing issue: the profound distress that she and other physicians in our community were experiencing as they practiced clinical medicine.

She did not guard her emotions; exhaustion and disillusionment had stripped away all pretense. All that remained were raw feelings, and the hope that someone would understand and care. We talked for hours. She described the wedge between her desire to help patients heal and the structures that had been put into place to “measure her value” with numbers.  Number of patients seen, number of prescriptions written, number of tests ordered … Her sincere commitment to her art and compassion for her patients had been relegated to second place behind the numbers.

We met several times, first making space for the expression of pain and grief. She was not looking for answers. Yet, in some way, despite the lack of congruence between her training and the expectations of a changed system, she was still hoping to reconnect with her calling. Slowly, over time, moments of laughter crept in, and we rested in the comfort of our shared humanity. She knew that I understood, but most importantly, that I cared, and this provided a foothold, a starting point for healing.

Many physicians nationwide share similar experiences. They find it difficult to describe the dissonance between their expectations and reality. Yet, the injury is real. Research consistently confirms a critical decline in the health and well-being of physicians. The loss of physician colleagues to suicide has been devastating to our medical community and heightened our commitment to actively address this public health crisis.

A Community Responds

My colleague Ed and I often meet at a little breakfast spot to share ideas and find inspiration.  Long time physicians, we clearly remember a time when physicians shared a genuine enthusiasm for professional work. Most physicians owned their own practices. Extensive administrative demands and regulations did not disrupt the effective practice of medicine, and physicians had time to build strong relationships with patients and their families, as well as their peers, so they could navigate challenges together.

We remember when physicians, administrators and other healthcare professionals worked side by side to provide high quality, compassionate health care to our patients. While we did not always agree on the best way forward, we sincerely respected the legitimacy of each person’s point of view, while actively pursuing efforts to negotiate the differences. On this sunny morning in July, deeply concerned about the well-being of our colleagues, and acutely aware of the complexity of the issues, Ed and I wondered what our small community could do to effectively respond to this crisis.

We were on the cusp of a 2 day Rediscovering Meaning In Our Work retreat conference created to explore the drivers of physician burnout and moral injury and provide a space for physicians and healthcare executives to connect, openly share their experiences, communicate concerns and identify creative, collaborative pathways forward.

In preparation for this event, Ed and I decided to invite friends from several sectors of healthcare to come together to actively address a system-level issue with significant impact on the health of our medical community. If we could make progress in the few months before the conference, we could share the results with our peers, and hopefully, provide inspiration. Our group became known as the Idaho Physician Well-Being Action Collaborative (IPWAC).

For our first project, we chose prior authorization, a process that significantly increases administrative demands on physicians in clinical practice and compromises patient care. Our goal was to bring prior authorization capabilities and medication costs and alternatives to physicians at time of service via the electronic health record. We invited physicians, hospital administrators and insurance company executives with whom Ed and I had established relationships to join the conversation.

While our first meeting was a bit contentious, we have come together every 2 months for over 6 years, and most of the people who started this work with us continue to participate, even after they have moved to other jobs. Each year, new friends in our local community and around the country join us. Many of the participants express that they feel nourished and inspired by our conversations, and while Ed and I facilitate, the success of this work is shared by each person who has contributed.

We have made significant progress. We have reduced prior authorizations by over 50% in some instances, coordinated prior authorization grids and started to build the infrastructure needed to accomplish other goals. Most importantly, we have cultivated a strong network of diverse individuals who openly and respectfully share ideas, insights and experiences with each other, and are committed to doing this work together.

New Projects:

Our community circle is now viewed as a welcoming space where people with different perspectives and experiences come together to effectively address complex and potentially divisive system-level healthcare issues.

In 2023, in response to the changes in the reproductive laws in our state, we expanded our focus to include women’s health. We are collecting and organizing data to detail the impact of the current laws in our state on health outcomes, access to medical care, the physician workforce, medical costs, economic growth and other factors that affect the health of our community. As we build an accurate and comprehensive database and identify important trends, we are sharing the results with our local community and communities nationwide.

An initial report highlighted a significant decline in our physician workforce in the 15 months after the change in laws in our state, with the closure of hospital obstetrics programs, and thus, reduced access to healthcare for all Idahoans. The data in this report has been highlighted in television and radio interviews and included in publications nationwide.  In addition, this research was referenced in a U.S. Senate report entitled “Two Years Post Dobbs: The Nationwide Impact of Abortion Bans.”

We continue to collect data and welcome healthcare and business professionals, educators, legislators and many other community members to join us at our roundtable to explore the research, share their insights and identify innovative solutions.

A Community Healthcare Movement:

In 2019, in collaboration with of a small group friends with broad experience in education and healthcare, we extended our friendship-centered approach to our wider community by creating the Compassionate Communities Healthcare Movement (CCHM). Our multi-generational movement includes seasoned professionals as well as university and medical school students. We work together to rekindle cooperative responsibility for the health of our communities, advance health equity & inspire compassionate action.

This October, the Compassionate Communities Healthcare Movement, Idaho Physician Well-Being Action Collaborative and Ada County Medical Society (ACMS), three organizations deeply committed to relationship-based work, are welcoming Dr. John Paul Lederach to our community. Dr. Lederach is internationally recognized for his pioneering work in the field of conflict transformation, reconciliation and international peace building. His experience highlights the potential for everyday people to shift the trajectory toward peace. He will meet with us at the Wassmuth Center for Human Rights to share insights and strategies that can be applied to current challenges. 

In 2025, Compassionate Communities is offering a Root Down Reach Out retreat conference to organizations and individuals who are working to actively address the impact of wildfires, droughts, floods, heat waves and other environmental events on the health of our communities. Similar to the retreat for physicians in 2018, we will welcome many voices, including those not often invited to the conversation. Local artists, musicians, poets and others community members will help us create a nourishing space to cultivate connection, deepen understanding, inspire hope, and move forward together.

A Dynamic Approach:

Ed and I often receive phone calls from people in other states asking us how we developed a coalition of diverse individuals from several sectors of our community who are enthusiastically and successfully working together to address complex healthcare issues. We have reflected on our experience and identified three integral aspects of our work together that differentiate our approach from more conventional, process-oriented efforts:

1. Cultivate A Circle of Friends

To advance cooperative and effective action, we believe it is essential to nurture and expand our relationships. We integrated an approach to cultural and social change illuminated by Dr. John Paul Lederach, a pioneer in the field of international peace building. John Paul has worked for decades to address violent conflicts around the globe, demonstrating that social and cultural change start when a small group of people decide that circumstances are intolerable. Before they develop a plan to address the situation, they ask each other:

Who Do You Know?

NOT who do you know who agrees with us, but "Who do you know with whom you have a relationship who you can welcome to join our conversation?”

John Paul proposes that our friendships provide an essential, sturdy and flexible foundation as we work to address complicated issues. With friends, we are more likely to listen carefully and respectfully, consider new ideas, recognize our biases and strive to understand each other. Our vision emerged from concern about the declining health and well-being of our physician  friends, so we started by inviting a small circle of friends who share our concern to respond to this crisis.

In an effort to strengthen our relationships, we have integrated two practices. First, we take time at the start of each meeting (and between meetings) to check in with each other, and when someone shares that they are going through difficult times, we provide a space for conversation and support. When caring relationships are prioritized, our work together is organic, creative and meaningful.

Second, we address each other by first names. This simple practice makes it easier to connect as individuals, each with our unique struggles, dreams, and insights, rather than focusing on titles. Doing so also nudges us to consider our attachment to identify and its effect on the quality of relationships that we develop.

Our circle of friends is continually growing. Ed and I encourage each of the Action Collaborative participants to welcome people with whom they have relationships to join us, especially individuals who see the world in ways that are vastly different from their own. At times, discussions among people with diverse opinions ignite strong emotions, but rather than shying away from disagreements, we make space for respectful inquiry into the reasons that we feel strongly about a particular idea. These times are unique opportunities to learn together, expand understanding and uncover shared values.

Friendship is a moving frontier of understanding, not only of the self and the other,

but also of a possible and yet un-lived future.

David Whyte

2.   Embrace Spontaneity

While we organize an agenda for each meeting, we remain flexible, and when our conversations are filled with enthusiasm and creativity, we do not interrupt the excitement. We trust that the energy and wisdom of the group will provide direction. Feelings of vulnerability may arise when “thinking out loud" and straying from a planned agenda. Yet, in these spontaneous moments, previously unseen insights often emerge, inspiring continued enthusiasm.

We often smile when we think back to the moment when we recognized that the hospital system and insurance company executives, pharmacists, physicians, legislators and medical societies in our group all agree that prior authorization reform is imperative. Discovering this unexpected common ground was a good reminder that many of the assumptions that contributed to the contentiousness of our first meeting were inaccurate, and has motivated us to work to transcend our biases and view ourselves, our community and our work with a wider lens.

Our approach integrates the concept of “unordered space” as described by Cynthia F. Kurtz and David J. Snowden. Kurtz and Snowden suggest that facts and patterns emerge from the experience rather than a well-defined framework. They propose that in unordered space, knowledge arises from dynamic relationships in the moment and is a function of trust, stories, and connections.

Many participants share that they enjoy the freedom of this organic, non-linear approach, and are surprised and inspired by all that we accomplish when working together in this way. We find that with practice, it becomes easier to trust ourselves, each other and the creative process.

3.  Reach Out to “Unlikely” Friends

Colleagues often ask us “How did you convince that person to meet for coffee or come speak at your retreat?” Our response is “We just asked!” Importantly, we do not reach out to people to convince them to support or join our efforts. We invite them to meet with us to get to know them, to share ideas and insights with each other, as we would with a new acquaintance, a potential new friend.

We ask questions like “What do you feel are the most important issues that we are facing right now?” and “What do you think are the best ways to address them?” We explore our work with them, sincerely asking for their input, and similarly, invite them to share their work with us. We spend much of our time together learning about each other.

When we connect with authenticity and genuine respect, and envision new possibilities for healing in our world, the ripples generated are many and varied. Even if we do not work together in the traditional way, hopefully, we both come away from the conversation with novel ideas, inspiration and a new friend.

In a presentation many years ago, John Paul Lederach shared that in his experience, if we hope to achieve sustainable social change, “first and foremost, we must be friends."

Our Invitation:

By sharing our experience, we hope to inspire people to join us or develop their own Physician Well-Being Action Collaboratives so more people can come together in community, and with kindness and genuine respect for each other, work to enhance the well-being of the physicians who dedicate their lives to care for us.

Generating system-level change may feel overwhelming, or perhaps even beyond reach, yet our experiences have taught us that when friendship is the heart of our work together, substantial social and cultural transformation and healing are possible.

Social healing is made up of space moments of resonance,

voices touching voices in a common space.

John Paul Lederach

Dr. Deb Roman and Dr. Ed McEachern founded and facilitate the Idaho Physician Well-Being Action Collaborative (IPWAC) and work together on the board of the Compassionate Communities Healthcare Movement (CCHM). They share presentations and workshops on the transformative potential of friendship-centered community circles. Please feel free to connect with them at drdebroman@finding-health.com or edward.mceachern@gmail.com.

References:

The Pocket Guide for Facing Down a Civil War: Surprising ideas from everyday people who shifted the cycles of violence. John Paul Lederach

Changes in Burnout and Satisfaction With Work-Life Integration in Physicians During the First 2 Years of the COVID-19 Pandemic. Shanafelt, West, Dyrbye, Trockel, Tutty, Wang, Carlasare, Sinsky 

The new dynamics of strategy: Sense-making in a complex-complicated world. Cynthia F. Kurtz and David J. Snowden

The Moral Imagination: The Art and Soul of Building Peace. John Paul Lederach

Building Peace: Sustainable Reconciliation in Divided Societies. John Paul Lederach

Hiding

I didn’t know I was hiding.  Long ago, I was given a script. I memorized the details and performed them with flawless accuracy.  My role: woman physician.  Aspects of my personality that did not align with the script were packed away deep inside where they would not be seen.  Over the years, I diligently fine tuned the dimensions of my character, adjusting my appearance and tempering my responses to meet cultural expectations.

In time, an uneasiness stirred inside me, and as I shared my feelings with other women physicians, I realized I had become so accustomed to playing a role, I was no longer sure how to be myself.

I began to explore the possibility of breaking role. I knew I would likely be judged. I also realized I might be excluded or even attacked.  In some ways, hiding seemed so much easier. But eventually, as Anais Nin says so beautifully, “the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

The judgment, exclusion and attacks became part of my experience, but the freedom of being myself, without apology, was deeply nourishing, felt important for the world, and motivated me to move forward.  Yet, without a circle of women physician friends who shared and understood my experience, I do not know if I could have found my way.  We encouraged each other to come out of hiding, explore and honor our strengths and allow our intuition and compassion to guide us.

Recently, I met a physician friend for tea. In addition to her clinical work, she works as an executive at a major hospital system.  She shared that during her annual performance appraisal, she was commended for approaching situations with curiosity.  Yet, rather than simply accepting the compliment, she told the male physician colleague who was evaluating her progress that she had learned long ago that communicating in this way was necessary if she hoped to be accepted into the medical community.  Her colleague was visibly surprised by her response.  She explained that in her experience, a woman physician who queries “I wonder…” is often received much differently than one who is too direct, and states “I think… ."

Interestingly, while my friend initially expressed curiosity to avoid criticism and seek approval, she eventually made a conscious choice to continue to communicate in this way.  She told me that did not make this decision to subscribe to the cultural norm; instead, she continued to greet situations with curiosity because she wanted to welcome different perspectives, consider new possibilities and prioritize relationships. She chose to move forward in her own way.

Many women physicians share similar stories, and are coming together in community to explore ways to navigate the landscape of medicine with authenticity.  Resisting the pressures of cultural norms is complicated and can be challenging. Yet, imagine the beautiful possibilities if we each choose to show up unapologetically, as ourselves, and bring our unique gifts to our work and the world.

Physician Professional Fulfillment

Occasionally in life there are those moments of unutterable fulfillment

which cannot be completely explained by those symbols called words.

Their meanings can only be articulated by the inaudible language of the heart.

Martin Luther King Jr.

We each define and experience professional fulfillment in different ways.  For me, as a family physician, relationships with patients and peers bring a sense of meaning and fulfillment to my work.

One evening at about 9pm I received a call from Mary, an elderly woman who had been a patient for many years.  She struggled with anxiety about her health, so I made every effort to return her calls quickly.  When I received her call, I was tucked in bed with a high fever.  I had contracted pneumonia and had been out of the office for a few days when my pager went off.

“Hi Mary, this is Dr. Roman.  What’s going on?”

There was silence on the phone.  After a few seconds, she responded:

“Dr. Roman, is that you?  Oh my goodness, you are way more sick than I am.  I want you to hang up this phone, get some tea and wrap yourself in a blanket.  Don’t call me back until you feel better.   You hear me?  I will call to check on you tomorrow.“

As I cared for Mary, she cared for me.  These compassionate moments with patients fill me up. They give me energy for the long hours and many demands and challenges of medical practice.

My relationships with physician colleagues are equally fulfilling.  Throughout my career, when I have encountered circumstances that challenge me, I have connected with peers.  These relationships provide a stable foundation for open, non-judgmental conversations.  They help me to make sense of my world and find my way forward.

The landscape of medicine has changed dramatically over the past few decades and the daily practice of medicine has been significantly altered.  For many physicians, time with patients has been drastically reduced, making it difficult to cultivate strong, mutually respectful relationships.   My colleagues and I no longer meet in the doctors lounge each evening while completing our hospital rounds after office hours.  Many of us work in what has been described as “silos” without the benefit of regular conversation with peers.

These changes in healthcare have prompted me to look more closely at the factors that enhance and diminish my level of professional fulfillment and identify specific ways to respond in alignment with my values.

A relatively new resource for physicians seeking fulfillment is professional coaching.

Participants who received professional coaching had a significant reduction in emotional exhaustion and overall symptoms of burnout, as well as improvements in overall quality of life.

JAMA Internal Medicine 2019

During group coaching, physicians come together in community with peers who share the physician experience to explore and address issues that are relevant and meaningful to them. The participants benefit from the support and insights of colleagues as professional coaches (who are also physicians) facilitate.   

The topics for each session are determined by the physician participants.  Discussion topics may include the transition to new roles, misalignment between individual values and those of the physician’s employer, cultural biases, administrative/regulatory demands, interpersonal conflicts, disillusionment and other issues that are of interest to the group.

I am continually inspired by the insights, engagement and enthusiasm that arise during group coaching sessions. Three foundational aspects of physician group coaching contribute to meaningful and transformational experiences for physicians:

1. Respect for the unique experiences, creativity and resourcefulness of each physician participant:  A coach can’t possibly know what another physician is experiencing or which factors will lead to an enhanced sense of meaning or fulfillment for that individual.  Coaches cultivate a non-judgmental space for exploration and encourage physician participants to identify these factors for themselves.

2. Integration of deep listening and reflective inquiry:  Professional coaching differs from conventional coaching (in athletics, for example) where development of specific skills is the focus. Professional coaches do not advise, mentor or teach.  Instead, experienced coaches actively listen, offer reflections and ask pertinent questions to allow participants to view situations from new perspectives and uncover possibilities that may not have been appreciated earlier. Active listening and reflective inquiry are also practiced by the participants.

3.  Focus on forward movement:  As insight and clarity emerge, physicians decide how they would like to integrate their new awareness moving forward. Many physicians share that when they determine for themselves how they would like to respond, their experience is meaningful, sustainable and empowering.

At a time when there is a great deal of isolation and division in healthcare, and many physicians express that they do not feel heard, lack autonomy and have minimal control over factors that are significantly impacting their work, group coaching provides a unique and valuable opportunity for physicians to access their capacity to choose and achieve changes that contribute to a greater sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

Between stimulus and response there is a space.

In that space is our power to choose our response.

In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

Viktor Frankl

The Practice of Wisdom

A few months ago, I received this text from my dad and have found the words inspiring:

Thought you might be interested in a David Brooks article today in the New York Times on the definition of wisdom. Over the ages, people tended to define wisdom as superior knowledge, but Brooks suggests that in his experience wisdom is less an impressive body of knowledge and more a way of relating to and influencing others.

Wise people usually do not tell a person what to do. They know that people only change after they feel understood and the really good confidant, those we go to for wisdom, first brings a "quality of attention" to your story, accepts it, learns how you deal with difficulties, and only then provides a non-threatening nudge to help you consider changes to your actions or relationships. It is the skillful process of walking people to their own conclusions that may constitute wisdom.

In our ideological age, where we are led to identify ourselves in categories -- male/female, black/white, liberal/conservative etc., perhaps wisdom can be seen as the way we interact with people of different opinions, not as types but as more nuanced individuals trying to understand opposing points of view and new ideas for narrowing our differences.

My dad and mentor, Jerry Sheinbach

Root Down Reach Out

There is no power for change greater than a community discovering what it cares about. 

Margaret J. Wheatley

My grandpa Sam emigrated to U.S. alone. His family remained in Ukraine. When he learned of deadly pogroms at his family's village, he returned home to help rescue his parents and siblings. This was a difficult task even if only 5-6 people were involved, but when he arrived, scores of neighbors begged him to lead them to safety. 

He was conflicted, knowing full well that the effort was extremely challenging and dangerous, but his sense of responsibility to his community was very strong and he eventually led more than 100 people across Europe to the U.S., likely saving many of their lives.

The long trip was treacherous and required remarkable courage, ingenuity and cooperation.  Before they started on their journey, the villagers collected names on tombstones in a local cemetery so they could create new identities. My grandpa mapped out a complex escape route involving multiple border crossings while the travelers secretly packed belongings and gathered supplies.  Since many in the group did not have enough money to cover expenses, my grandpa used his savings to help them.

Demands for large payments from corrupt border guards and a clash with a pickpocket, who stole all of their money, almost derailed their efforts.  Yet, the traveling community was committed to sharing responsibilities and adhering to rules for safeguarding and supporting all members of the group.  They worked together to obtain food, spot police and assist those with disabilities.  

Remarkably, the pickpocket was tackled by one of the villagers before he could take off with their cash, and at one point, my grandpa secured an entire railroad car to carry their large group across Europe without interference from border guards.

Such extraordinary service and dedication to community, with input and participation from individuals with diverse abilities, perspectives and experiences, is integral to the success of efforts to address the complex challenges that threaten the health of our communities.

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In contrast, during the current pandemic, the desperate efforts of clinicians to manage the barrage of hospital admissions, decrease soaring infection rates and care for patients who are seriously ill, struggling to breathe and isolated from their friends and families are being undermined by disputes concerning appropriate citizen behavior.  

Our shared responsibility for the health of our communities, essential to curb this global public health crisis, has been overshadowed by societal divisions and political agendas that impede respectful dialogue and cooperative efforts to alleviate suffering. 

What are the reasons for the striking difference between the current response to the coronavirus pandemic and the response of my grandfather’s community to the threats during WW2?

How do we cultivate the deep commitment to community and innate tendency to care for each other expressed by my grandfather and his village?

These questions provided the impetus for the creation of Compassionate Communities - an inter-generational community healthcare movement organized to rekindle cooperative responsibility for the health of our communities, advance health equity and inspire compassionate action. 

Our founding chapter in Idaho collaborates with community partners to address the most pressing healthcare issues before us. We are currently focused on significant impact of the decline in air quality associated with increasing wildfires on community health, the complicated public health concerns during a pandemic and the profound health inequities that do not allow our neighbors, friends, family members and colleagues to thrive. 

Root Down Reach Out, our hashtag and the name of our “one person-one tree” initiative, reflects our vision for a healthcare movement with the foundational strength and potential of an engaged, inclusive community.  

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We have integrated a model for social change described by John Paul Lederach, a sociologist who describes his work as peace building.  John Paul has endeavored to bring about conflict transformation in war-torn areas around the world for decades.  

He proposes that social change always begins when a small group of people decide that circumstances are intolerable.  In these instances, pain and suffering drive them toward each other.  Once they meet, rather than focusing on how to address the issues, they first ask: 

“Who Do You Know?” 

NOT who do you know who agrees with us, but:  "Who do you know with whom you have a relationship who you can invite to join our conversation?”

John Paul suggests that our friendships provide an essential, sturdy and flexible foundation as we work to address complicated social and cultural issues.  With this foundation, we are more likely to listen respectfully, consider new ideas, recognize our biases and endeavor to understand each other. 

He emphasizes that if we hope to generate widespread transformational change, we must 

“Always preserve the dignity of others” 

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This past year, as infections and deaths escalated, long term, serious health consequences from the coronavirus became evident and inconsistent messaging and politicalization of the healthcare response fueled division, mistrust and violence, Compassionate Communities focused on pursuing efforts to encourage action in the interests of the overall community.  

We launched the Compassionate Connections Community Healthcare Forum to provide opportunities for community members to come together informally to strengthen relationships, explore issues that impact the health of our communities and identify opportunities to enhance understanding, collaboration and community well-being.  

In alignment with our vision, every time we meet, we each invite people with whom we have relationships to join the conversation. Salient questions serve as starting points for our conversations.

At the core of our work is our commitment to welcome diverse voices and strive to identify common ground.  Even when the issues are critical or life threatening, and perhaps especially then, we ask each other:  “what can we agree upon?”  Sometimes, the only thing we can agree upon is that we love fresh coffee - so we start there.  

Identifying common ground when exploring emotionally charged issues is especially difficult. Last year, when searching for a productive way to address masking, rather than reducing our conversation to “pro” and “against,” we worked together to identify situations when masking may be unnecessary (when taking a walk outside alone) as well as those when masking may be beneficial (when visiting an elderly grandmother).  

When our views and experiences are very different, we challenge ourselves to prioritize relationships over ideology and consider unfamiliar perspectives with curiosity and humility.  We are often reminded that we share similar opinions about fundamental issues, like the health of our families and our hopes for our children.  This common ground inspires a willingness to reorient our relationship to each other and work together to identify creative and compassionate solutions that serve and represent the diverse people in our community. 

At a time when we are witnessing anger and estrangement among our neighbors, family members and friends simply because we have different opinions, it is our hope that our Compassionate Connections Community Healthcare Forum will provide a useful model for productive dialogue and move people to reconnect with friends, family, neighbors and colleagues - not necessarily to change their opinions, but simply to talk, openly share ideas and hopefully, rekindle affection, thoughtfulness and a sense of community solidarity.

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My grandpa recognized the value of belonging to an engaged community and embraced his responsibility to his neighbors, friends and family with courage and generosity.  

Engaging with community may seem a daunting task, but each day, in small and seemingly insignificant ways, we have opportunities to share our views on community issues with neighbors, co-workers and others, and even solicit community support to address issues that are important to us.  As individuals, our impact and reach may be limited, but an organized community’s voice is widely heard. 

As we navigate the profound healthcare issues before us, we invite you to share your voice with us, participate in our grassroots efforts or even consider starting your own local group so we can build strong community voices, steadied by common ground and guided by a sincere commitment to care for each other.

The really important kind of freedom involves … being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them over and over … every day.

David Foster Wallace

Deb Roman co-wrote this article with her grandpa’s oldest son (and her dad), Jerry Sheinbach.  Deb and her dad, who turned 90 in 2021, have worked together on many projects to enhance community health and have written essays together since Deb was a young girl.